January 10, 2020
Abyie Polden, 24
The fact that we have a free market ruled by the laws of supply and demand means that this female individual of the Human Race was chosen as a paragon of beauty by an overwhelmingly enthusiastic chunk of the population that just so happens to be morbidly obese too.
An 18st woman told she ‘shouldn’t be able to reproduce’ because of her weight has hit back at trolls by posing naked on social media – landing a modelling gig in the process.
Abyie Polden, 24, from Telford, Shropshire, was 15 when she was diagnosed with lipoedema – an abnormal build-up of fat cells in the legs, thighs, buttocks and arms.
Desperately self-conscious, she spent years hiding her larger frame, cropping the photos she posted online so that she was only visible from the shoulders up.
Men who don’t appreciate her kind of beauty are just unable to handle a woman of her caliber.
If you can’t pick her up to throw her into your bed, you just don’t deserve her and you must hit the gym until you’re strong enough — and man enough — to handle her.
Then, buoyed by the body positivity movement, the customer service adviser, had an ‘epiphany’ and, in summer 2018, decided to bare all on Instagram, uploading a candid photo of herself holding a sign saying, ‘My body, my rules.’
The powerful snap saw her follower count “blow up” overnight – though amongst the positive responses were cruel comments, asking how her fiancé, warehouse operator Jack Gooch, 27, ‘survives without being squashed.’
Now, she is using her platform to fight the stigma surrounding plus size women, and models for plus-size brands Pink Clove and Unique 21.
No amount of obese models will change the fact that the “stigma” is biological.
Obesity just isn’t healthy, and things so blatantly unhealthy are blatantly unattractive.
Even if all people everywhere suddenly start viewing obese women as beautiful angelical beings, obese women will continue to be unhealthy emotional messes facing an early death.
They are walking signs warning of crooked personalities, weak willpower, hormonal problems, and more.
Growing up, Abyie always felt she stood out because of her larger frame.
By the time she started secondary school aged 11, she was noticeably bigger than her classmates, especially around her thighs.
Explaining how her size made her a target for bullies, she said: “Of course I wasn’t the only one that noticed – the rest of the school did too.
‘One name that always stood out was ‘Flabby Abby‘ – it particularly hurt.
‘Boys would pretend to ask me out on a date, and if I’d accept, they’d turn around and say, “Only joking – you’re too fat.”‘
Desperate to slim down, Abyie tried several ‘fad diets’ in her teens – but nothing seemed to work.
Then, aged 15, she decided to broach the topic with her doctor during an appointment regarding an unrelated skin problem, and was shocked to be diagnosed with lipoedema.
According to the NHS, the condition usually only affects women, and sees areas of the body becoming enlarged, as well as bruising easily and feeling painful and tender.
Some sufferers – like Abyie – are also prone to fluid retention in their legs.
‘I was actually visiting the GP about eczema, but part of me just knew there had to be more to my weight gain,’ she recalled.
“He asked about my diet, took a look at my legs and said I had a condition called lipoedema.
‘Obviously it came as a shock, but in a way it gave me a feeling of validation.
‘When you’re bullied over your weight it’s so easy to think it’s your fault – that you shouldn’t have eaten that doughnut. But once I knew why, it felt like a sense of responsibility I’d had was lifted.’
Of course nothing seemed to work! She just magically materializes fat without ingesting calories.
Kind of like a car that runs out of gas but just keeps on running, forever.
People should be studying her to reveal the secrets of infinite energy, not shaming her!
From there, Abyie, who was warned by doctors that her condition could progress, was taught self-management techniques, like therapeutic massage, to help naturally drain fluid from her legs.
She also ditched her cycle of yo-yo dieting, and followed a healthy, balanced eating regime instead.
‘It’s hard because there is no cure for the condition so in a way you feel helpless,’ she continued. ‘But I started to treat myself better, eating a healthy, well-balanced diet instead of the latest crash diet.’
No one following a “healthy, balanced eating regime” would continue to be that fat.
Overweight creatures just can’t be trusted. They can’t be expected to be honest about what they eat.
Although she believes that scrolling through heavily filtered Instagram posts skewed her idea of what beauty standards should be, it was on the same photo sharing site that she first came across the body positivity movement.
In February 2019, Abyie was contacted by fashion brand Pink Clove to showcase a handful of their outfits.
Jumping at the chance, she agreed, and now regularly models for their Instagram page, as well as for the brand Unique 21.
Next, she hopes to get involved with some more ‘mainstream’ brands, such as Boohoo and River Island.
She concluded: ‘It’s so great being a part of the shift in how woman and their bodies are perceived – especially by big brands.
‘I’m so glad that I decided to embrace my figure and to show other girls out there that they can be beautiful, and in a social media age they’re still accepted.’
The obese are changing what it means to be beautiful.
Once enough people agree with obese women about how beautiful fat rolls are, men will start having strong erections at the sight of lipedema.